When I was growing up, my parents taught my siblings and me that we were special and that we were gifts from God. They often sacrificed to do things with us kids like camping, fishing, hunting and making our activities important to them. My dad even worked two jobs at times to pay for these family times as we were far from being rich.
The Bible tells us that children are a gift from God and we are to raise them to know and love Him in all things. They are to be treasured and cared for.
According to a study just published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, my siblings and I should be very narcissistic because of our parents treating us as being special and as ‘gifts from God.’
Brad Bushman, Professor of Communication and Psychology at Ohio State University is the senior author of the study. He states:
“It comes pretty naturally. Most parents think their children are special, and deserve better treatment. But when our children receive special treatment, they become narcissistic and come to believe they deserve more and are superior to others.”
“It’s good to be a warm parent and a loving parent, but it’s not OK to treat your children as if they are better than others. Everyone we meet is better than us at something, and the fact that we’re all human beings makes us equally valuable.”
To some degree I may agree with Bushman, but I also strongly disagree with him and his conclusion. Yes, I was raised being told I was special and a gift from God, but my parents also taught us biblical values like respect for others and doing for others. Remember when I said my parents sacrificed for us kids? Well they also sacrifice for other kids as well. Both of my parents were Boy Scout leaders back when Boy Scouts was a Christian and morally based organization. They not only spent time with us but with other kids and taught them the same Christian values they taught us and yes, that included being taught that they were also gifts from God.
One of my favorite hymns is called Others. Here are the lyrics:
Lord, help me live from day to day
In such a self-forgetful way
That even when I kneel to pray
My prayer shall be for—Others.
Others, Lord, yes others,
Let this my motto be,
Help me to live for others,
That I may live like Thee.
Help me in all the work I do
To ever be sincere and true
And know that all I’d do for You
Must needs be done for—Others.
Let “Self” be crucified and slain
And buried deep: and all in vain
May efforts be to rise again,
Unless to live for—Others.
And when my work on earth is done,
And my new work in Heav’n’s begun,
May I forget the crown I’ve won,
While thinking still of—Others.
But when God is taken out of the equation and kids are just taught to think of themselves and no one else, that’s when things go wrong. Our society today promotes the idea that you are special and deserve the best of everything. Our socialistic education system and government also teaches that you deserve everything but that you don’t have to work to achieve it. Others with more should be forced to provide for you and your narcissistic desires and lusts.
Whenever man stops focusing on God, he usually ends up focusing on himself. Is this the parents’ fault? Partially, but it’s also our nation’s fault. For the past 50 years liberals, atheists and socialists have been systematically removing God, Jesus, the Bible and anything Christian from our schools, government and life in general. Without being taught that you are accountable to God for your actions, your accountability turns inward to yourself. Evolution teaches we are just another animal trying to survive and that we need to focus on ourselves first and foremost. Church is being replaced by a socialist government. Prayer is being replaced with self-centered meditation and our morality is being replaced with hedonistic lusts.
I find it ironic that this report emanates from Ohio State University which I find to be one of the most narcissistic universities in our nation. They always refer to the school as THE Ohio State University and claim to have the most famous marching band in the land. School pride is one thing, but to take it to the levels that OSU does is often repulsive and going overboard to many.
The narcissism I see in today’s youth is a product of years of socialistic brainwashing more than kids being told that they are special and gifts from God.